What is self esteem?
What is self esteem? Self-esteem is beliefs or feelings we have about ourselves. It's how we define
ourselves in the world in which we live. Self-esteem influences our attitude, behaviour and motivation and
affects our emotional resilience.
When children learn to do a task successfully after a number of
unsuccessful attempts, it gives them a feeling of achievement and boosts their self-esteem. The understanding that
persistence leads to success starts very early in childhood.
Children with a healthy self-esteem have a positive 'inner voice',
for example, they will say to themselves “I can do this; I will be able to work it out; I am good at
When a challenge arises, children with a healthy self-esteem can
generally work towards finding a solution. These children are more persistent when learning to read and therefore,
are more likely to achieve success.
We do what we are good at. If they believe they are good at
reading, they will enjoy reading, the more they read the better reader they become.
If you can instil from a very early age that they are achieving
success, then children will be more likely to want to participate. Promoting a feeling of success from the very
beginning will get them off on the right foot to becoming a happy little reader.
Promote positive behaviour - Use labelled praise
When you approve of something your child has done, rather than saying ‘good boy or
good girl’, use labelled praise. Labelled praise describes the
behaviour that you see. For example “I really liked the way you read that sentence, you really made it sound
exciting”. A focus on behaviour means that they know exactly what they have done well, so they can do it
Comment about their efforts rather
than the outcome. For example, when your child attempts a challenging word, you could say “you tried really hard to
sound out that word, I am really proud of you”.
If they did not succeed at a task,
you could say "well, you weren't able to make sense of that part; however it was very tricky, maybe we could read
the tricky part together". This helps children form realistic expectations.
Redirect any negative language - if
they say "I can't do it, it’s too hard". Reply with "you haven’t been successful yet, but you are just learning.
Learning new things can be difficult and takes a lot of practice".
Role modelling a healthy self-esteem
Role modelling a positive self-image is important; if you are self
critical your child is likely to imitate you. Regularly give yourself positive reinforcement; it will be beneficial
for your child and for you.
Promoting a positive self image
Comment on their
successes often. When you say things like “you are learning very quickly, I can’t believe you know so much already”
it generates a feeling of success.
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